Letting go

A client called me the other day and asked this question "Mia how do I let go" and "how will I know when I have let go".

Excellent questions as letting go is not really a tangible thing to do well not when it involves emotions, thoughts, and pysical aspects such as pain for example.

So here are a couple of methods which I use and coach others to use, however they are just guidelines so have fun and make your own version up.

If the mind thinks it is not tangible it makes letting go appear more difficult than it actually is, so one method is to close your eyes and imagine to your best ability that you have a huge balloon in your hand and you are able to put the issue you wish to let go of into that balloon then blow it up with helium, tie a beautiful ribbon onto it and imagine yourself letting it go.

If you don't mind getting in tune with your inner child, then go and do it for real, I have done this on many occasion, buy a helium balloon and go to a local park or really open space and write your "issues" in indelible marker pen all over the balloon and then let it go. Doing it in reality is a little more difficult and many have said that they actually feel the emotion leaving their body, and then get really emotional which is just great. Try it, it brings about a huge sense of freedom.

Another technique I have used with clients is to write the words of the issue or write out the whole issue onto paper and then go into a safe place and burn the paper fully, it is said that your messages get sent to the universe in the smoke. With this one my messages on the paper have done there best to blow away from me and I have been seen running around the park chasing the peice of paper to ensure that it burns fully. I have also had paper which has refused to burn which led me to spray an accelerant onto it. But please use your noddle when doing this, but the message in there is that you are resisting letting the issue go. So bare that in mind when using this method.

As for knowing when you have truly let something go, I have found that when someone else asks for assistance on the very subject which you have let go of or when you are faced with the very same scenario which you were letting go of and you find that you achieve a much better outcome. Total result which ever way it goes.

So get out there on the next full moon and use either or of the above techniques, or make your own up and remember it is not just about letting go, it helps if you do other processes such as forgiveness, and visualisation.

But good luck and have fun. You really do not have to carry around bags of rotten old vegetables with you every where you go. Just think about that.

Mind chatter

Today I took some time out from my chattering mind and sat by the canal, just watching other people go about there day and allowing myself to have no thoughts, none, nada, not one, wow how difficult is that?

I only managed stillness on the odd ocassion as the mind always wanted to think something about what I was gazing at even if it is just an observation about looking at a person.

It was an amazing process, and revealed an awful lot about myself and how others are.

Then I thought, oh there I go again thinking!

What if I throw a thought in the way of a question out to a complete stranger, just to see what happens, and then I remembered what an Aboriginal had taught me - when you throw a boomerang out it will come back to you. But I was really interested to see the response of the stranger to whom I had randomly thrown a question to about something going on in my life currently, which to date I have not come to a conclusion or answer about.

My theory behind using a complete stranger was to see their response as they are not emotionally involved in the process or experience, and it was really interesting.

Having had that experience, I decided to continue on my journey to explore for the truth and answer if there was one even.

So off I went again to another place, to continue my game but this time watching out for universal answers to my question.

I saw two swans, loads of butterflies which were all extremely close to me, ducks, swallows, and a buzzard. Now the buzzard was the one which really caught my attention as it was flying so low over my head I could see its eyes, this is very unusual for a buzzard. So I knew that this was symbolic to my answer.

Even the experience helped me remember so much about what I love about life, and then something else got my attention.

I was walking very slowly by the canal, and a little girl no more than 5 years old ran in front of me, stopped dead and looked me up and down, and then ran off. It was the most bizarre thing, as it was so accurately done there was no mistaking the experience for anything other than what it was. Her mother passed me seconds later and looked as me apogising like there was no tomorrow. First thought was I wondered the reason she felt the need to apologise and that was clear she felt so embarassed about the way the inocent little girl had stared me up and down.

I laughed and thought it really amazing, but there was a very strong message there for me personally and I got it. Sorry too personal to share with you at this stage.

Wow so what a truly amazing day, the message of buzzard which again is personal to me and therefore only I will understand its meaning, hence no explanation, and then the little girl.

The reason I am saying all this too you is to allow you to see that there are always signposts and directions for things happening in your own life if you just wake up and look for them.

All this from my morning statement of "Wow I am having a fantastic day" and clapping my hands before I get out of bed.

Setting my day up for amazing fantastic experiences to happen all around me, and for me to be observant enough to get them. So amazing.

Try it, if it does not happen the first time just do it again and again and eventually like anything it will become more natural and familiar to you. Enjoy.

The Weather

Wondering what the topic of the day would be soon became very clear, yes it is the weather. I spoke to a few people today and within every one of those conversations the weather appeared to be an issue for each and every one of them.

Now I have a few theories when it comes to the weather, and all of them relevant, but today's story goes a little like this.

"Hey Mia what is up with the weather"?

"Julie I have no idea what is up with it but, I believe that the weather is just being the weather, it doesn't look as though it has got the flu or anything to me".

"Yes but it is awful isn't it Mia"

"Julie I think the weather is beautiful"

"Mia are you in this country"?

"Yes Julie I most certainly am, but let me just try something I am going to the 15th floor of this building which I am in at the moment, and hey Julie the weather is the same up hear you know! and hey without the weather british people would have little to converse about, It's too hot v it's so miserable, wet and cold and the poor weather gets blamed for an awful lot of misery don't you think, my other thought is you choose to live here so quit moaning about the weather it is part of Britain being Britain".

"Oh Mia it just makes me feel so miserable"

"Julie please explain how is that at all possible? that in actual fact is a total impossibility"

"Well Mia it is so grey and windy and wet"

"Yes Julie I totally agree with you, however it is your choice to feel miserable nothing to do with the weather, so just for a second I would like you to close your eyes (obviously this was in verbal dialogue, so if you close your eyes now you will not be able to read the rest of the conversation!!) and just imagine that you have no fears of flying etc and you are 35,000 feet in the air drifting through the expanse of clear blue sky with the sun shining out across the expansion of nothingness with white fluffly clouds below you - wow how different does that make you feel, begin to feel the warmth of that sun upon your body, the colour blue embraces you to feel uplifted and calm, you feel bright and clear like the sky, oh my, doesn't that feel so wonderful Julie, now just come back into the now".


"Oh I really wanted to stay there it was so much better than looking at our weather Mia, but I do feel brighter"

"Julie you can go anywhere you choose in your imagination, and by doing that it can shift your perception and how you feel in a moment"

So off Julie went thinking about the expanse of blue sky of sun which is always there but is just not visible to us today here in the earth plane, but it is never not there.

Shift your perception today, and allow that warmth of the sun and the clear blue sky shine from within you, and see how much better you feel within yourself.

People, the weather is just doing what the weather does, so quit going on about it, it does not matter how much you go on about it, the weather is still going to do what the weather does. And if you put as much focus on your inner sun and brightness as you do the weather then you would not even take any notice of what the weather is doing, and be in a state of uplifting harmony.

So if you choose to be happy and bright guess what, the weather is still going to do what the weather does, so is it not better to choose happy and bright over dull and miserable?

I know which one I am.